This morning on my weekly mothers group run, a new mother joined us.

She joined the group even though she didn’t know anyone, she had not slept the previous night, it was 35 degrees out and she is not a morning person. She ran with our pacesetter and it did not seem to faze her.

She was happy to be outside, grateful to experience “happy morning people,” and proud that she had stuck to her resolution to run.

I remember this feeling. Proud just to get out of bed. Proud to do one thing for myself that I used to do regularly before becoming a mother. This feeling is important because it brings you back to your own center and reminds you of who you are.

THE MOTHERHOOD TRANSITION

The transition to motherhood is so complex and extraordinary that it touches every aspect of our lives. We are forever changed. Some of these changes are so profound that we may lose touch with our center while we focus our attention on birthing, bonding with our infant and caring for one or multiple babies. Every day we are expanding ourselves to include our role as a mother.

This evolutionary process of becoming a mother includes a dramatic shift in time, focus, lifestyle, finances and relationships. For most of us it is not a straightforward progression and there are very few resources to help us along.

Problems can arise when we focus too much of our energy on the well being of others and not enough on ourselves. When things get difficult to manage and you find yourself stressed out, a bit of self-care can help maintain your sanity and balance.

CENTERING ON THE OLD YOU

One place to start is to reach out to the “old you” and do something that used to make you smile and feel just a bit more alive. This can take 10 minutes or 2 hours, but make sure you set aside the time and set the intention to do it.

After doing this, you will find yourself back in control, in charge and replenished with energy to continue with whatever the day brings you.

Here are some examples pulled together from fellow moms and mentors of things you can do to reconnect with your “old” self:

  • Use a symbol that reminds you to say “yes” to yourself
  • Make yourself a meal that only you like
  • Watch your favorite movie
  • Read a favorite book
  • Play your own music in the car
  • Pick up a sport you used to play
  • Revisit a hobby you used to love
  • Take a 10 minute “time out”
  • Go to lunch with a friend
  • Go for a solo hike or take a walk on the beach
  • Do your meditation practice or practice yoga
  • Dance
  • Go to a museum or art show
  • Take an early morning exercise class
  • Go for a long run

As mothers, we must collectively work on putting ourselves back in the center of our lives. I promise you that if the new you does something just for yourself, the former you will be waiting there with a smile.

 

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Laura Riordan Life Coach

Laura is a transitions coach who helps her clients find balance and meaningful success. With a Ph.D. in Psychology and 20 years in the mind & body wellness industry, she brings wisdom, clarity, and swiftness to her coaching practice. Laura’s coaching practice evolved from the understanding that people need a guide to help identify their meaningful work, ground aha moments and give accountability and infrastructure to make lasting changes.  Laura will help you rediscover what lights you up, clarify what makes you tick and map your targets with practical instruction on how to get there. Learn more about working with Laura here.
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