Have you heard about the power of our thoughts to create our reality?
It’s true! Our thoughts can leave us feeling empowered or can hold us back from building the life we want and experiencing the reality we desire.
You can learn how to become more aware of self-limiting thoughts and how to move past those blocks with more inspiring thoughts. But, what if there was another way to create our reality… or better yet, our ideal world?
What about the power of our words?
Obviously thoughts can and will be expressed by our words. So when we’re struggling with capturing the thoughts that hold us back, we can just listen to the words we say to describe our lives. Being more conscious about the language we use can be such a simple yet powerful way to mitigate the influence of those self-limiting thoughts and inspire a more ideal reality.
Yes, you can learn to leverage conscious language to create a “better” reality. This technique helps transition our power to our best selves! And wouldn’t it be great if our best selves were in charge?! Then we could create a new world for ourselves — one reflecting our deepest desires and ultimately happiest results.
Use these four tips to start using language that will help you get where you want to go.
1. Talk about what you want instead of what you don’t want.
How often do you talk about what you don’t want versus what you do want? If you believe your thoughts create your reality, put your attention on what you want versus what you don’t want. If you find yourself thinking about what you don’t want, interrupt that thought and replace it with what you do want. Then speak that truth.
Typical Way – “I don’t want to work 50 hours a week at a 9 a.m. to 5 p.m. job.”
New Way – “I want to work a flexible schedule where I choose my hours.”
The clarity or specificity of what you desire makes it easier for you to find it. It also helps others support you in finding opportunities that match your desire.
2. Use empowering words like “I choose” vs “I can’t.”
I often hear people say “I’m broke” or “I can’t afford…” Then, they spend money on something I’d never buy. There is no judgement. It just reinforces to me that we all prioritize different things in our lives. So, embrace what you’re prioritizing or what you want to emphasize in your life.
Typical Way – “I can’t afford to go to that place for dinner.”
New Way – “I choose to spend my money on my Starbucks coffee everyday” or “I choose to spend money on my rent.”
We obviously all have different circumstances, but don’t let yourself feel like a victim of those circumstances. You’re in charge!
3. Use positive language that’s loving and compassionate.
How often do you use sarcasm or self-deprecating humor to make light of a situation? It obviously reflects a bit of denigrating truth we think about ourselves or someone else? Those words can diminish confidence. Focus on and emphasize what can support and uplift yourself and others.
Typical Way – My tree trunk legs can do a million squats.
New Way – I’m grateful my strong legs allow me to move my body the way I need and want.
I know the new way of saying what I think can sound corny. But, I believe it, too. So why not say it? Trust me, it’s been tough to decrease the amount of sarcasm or self-deprecating humor I use. It’s often been some of my best material. Alas, it’s hurting someone – usually me. So be nice – especially to yourself.
4. Give up on the word “try” and make a commitment instead.
If you think about it, you’re either going to do something or you’re not going to do it. If you give yourself the wiggle room to not do something by saying “I’ll try…” you diminish your motivation to do it. Your brain gives up more easily on a task. So, commit to your desired task and share it with others. People will hear your desire more clearly and can support you or hold you accountable.
Typical Way – I’m going to try to eat less sugar.
New Way – I’m eating less sugar. (Even better – I’m eating maple syrup – a natural sweetener!)
The power behind the new way to say what you’re doing is palpable. So commit to your decision to do something, say it, and you’ll feel a stronger energy to accomplish it. Try it! I mean, commit to it 😉
What words will you try? What will you commit to? We’re excited to see!
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